“What the hell do bottoms know about rope bondage?”

I have been invited to be a speaker at a kink event. This is really, really WIN, and seems to be happening more frequently, which is SUPER cool.

This one is in Colorado. It is called Denver Bound. It is a smaller event, and they have an interesting setup. They have a few people come and do a very intensive weekend, 4-5 classes each over the 3 day period.

Last year, it was 4 rope bondage rigger types.

Um….yeah.

You can see where I am going with this.

You see, I’m not a “rope bondage teacher.”

I checked, and yes, it is a rope-bondage intensive.  I asked the organizer if he was sure he was asking the right person? He said emphatically yes.

But what the fuck do I know about rope bondage?

Dammit Jim, I’m a submissive, not a rope rigger!

Most of the time, we’re props.

I have certainly demoed in rope bondage classes. But not all that often, because the desire to see fat girls tied up isn’t high.

Unless the class is about tying up fat girls.

As I thought about what I might have to say about rope from my perspective… that being the bottom side.

I remembered that my first glimmer of a desire to, and a possible capacity for teaching in the Kink community was when I was bottoming during a rope demo. There I was, one leg tied behind me, semi-suspended in a rope harness, in a rumpled dishabille from all of the hemp rope.  I was grooving — blissed out and high on hemp in a way that doesn’t take any smoking and sure enough has nothing to do with THC.

Someone asked my Trainer, who was teaching, if it was OK to ask me a question. He said yes, it was OK.

So there I was with about the ball of one foot on the floor, arms behind my back, half lost in the haze and smoky head-trip of rope bondage, talking about what that was like.

It would sound impossible to be able to be coherent in one of the least conducive situations imaginable: tied up and turned on and mostly naked in front of a classroom full of attentive witnesses.

This is where a lifetime mad acting skillz is really an amazing tool, yo.

The “me” in bondage became the character I was dissecting. The “me” who remains present  was able to do a character breakdown, and “interview” the sub-spacey Mollena.

I talked about how much the process of losing control incrementally can be very arousing and also scary. About how I had, even in the year since I’d been in Service to this particular Dominant, developed quite an affinity for rope bondage and hemp rope in particular. To the point where even the smell of a well-conditioned hank of hemp heats me up…just a little. Just enough.

I talked a lot. Eventually I was gagged, to stem the tide of increasingly breathy babbling.

Shit happens.

So, yeah. What DO bottoms have to say about rope bondage?

As it turns out, quite a bit.

I immediately came up with one topic: “Beautiful Victim: Negotiating, Communicating and Illuminating your Submission.” It would be around self-expression for bottoms, and help for tops and dominants in eliciting those wonderful connections and reactions that so many crave.  OK, cool!

I thought also a class that taught about warm-up, processing and cool down, on a physical level, would be great.

I chatted a bit yesterday with a friend who brainstormed with me on another angle: that of a whole “From the Bottom:” series of classes.  A  discussion of  and exploration into why bottoms enjoy rope bondage, what happens emotionally when you are going into, coming out of, and processing afterwards, some of the reasons people love or avoid it, etc.

Come to think of it, this is really an awesome kind of challenge to which I gotta step up :-)

Never underestimate the power of a submissive.  NEVER.