Sunday, June 17, 2012
6:00 PM –8:00 PM
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
Doors open at 5:00 pm
$5 for Janus members and reciprocal organizations, $15 all others

Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

The program runs from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but come early for a mixer and social event!

Self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished

Class description:

As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.

We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:

• How do I know what I want?
• What would happen if I have my needs met?
• What would happen if I do not have my needs met?
• When does serving another become compromising myself?
• How do I know when I’ve gone too far?

This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.

It’s also just 3 days before my birthday so there may well be some form of celebration afoot, too.

Oh and PS? Just because you ain’t a submissive or slave doesn’t mean this discussion doesn’t have a place for you, too.