Conversations with The Perverted Negress: Episode 9D!
Holy Hand Grenade Of Antioch, we are STILL. AT. IT!
Transparency and opacity online. Does the “Walled Garden ” of Fetlife keep people from sharing their process in a broader context? Is it safe for sadists and dominant types to bare their shit to the public? Especially when their words could very well leave all kinds of evidence against ’em?
Which bums me out./because I SOÂ wanna see more scene reports talk about rom the top / dominant / sadist perspective. Grr!
I talk about some of the risks of personal transparency, sharing my own personal journey has put me in the crosshairs…and still does.
I squick J.P.’s genitals, (my apologies. Mister Robichaud…feel free to choose your methode d’vengeance) and we riff and jaw a bit abut the next big thing, courtesy of my weird brain: SUB JENGA! Â My Angry Birds ignorance is revealed (there’s a Star Wars Angry Birds?!)
Scene report – harassment works! I mention how I used my subtle powers of persuasion to get one of the few people with whom I have some racially-based BDSM scenes with to talk about his perspective.
Then there’s chatteriness on how a mutual desire for transparency and openness can foster trust and, subsequently, emotional intimacy becomes a mutually satisfying and awesome thing, yo! And no, intimacy isn’t always obvious: the outside world can’t really have a transparent window into the intimacies of a relationship when all they can see is the play and the protocol…
…aaaand then you guessed it, time to Sad Trombone out of this installment! Tomorrow is the last bit of tastiness in this six-part brainmeat extravaganza on intimacy!
Referenced in this Episode: Â
Graydancer’s side of the story in playing with race, as The Man.