Musings
At 35000 feet.
I am learning to write in mid-air. I used to never be interested in doing so. I think it is good to have this desire blossoming. I have many flights in my future, and don’t foresee that slowing down any time soon. So…we write. I’m in first class tonight. And this is awesome. I took…
Read More“Dear James…” a letter to someone who Was.
Dear Jim… It is HIGHLY unlikely you’ll ever read this, I’m writing it anyway. Who the fuck am I kidding. Honestly? Frankly? The “You†to whom I’m writing only lives in my heart and mind. The “You†you are today is years and miles away from the man who upended my life, careened me into…
Read MoreApache. (the dance not the webserver you fucking geek)
As an artistical type person going on 36 years now, I am a perpetual student of all manner of art forms. Especially the ones my brain re-purposes for illicit erotic fantasymining. My skills as a dancer are often limited by the skill of my partner. Hm. Sound familiar? I can bottom quite well to a…
Read More“Vanilla” Bigotry.
I love perverted sex. In fact, some of the perverted sex I love the most is considered too fucked up for public consumption by other kinky people. I love kinky people. The community, warts and all, is a home for me. Â And like any extended weird family, we have our disagreements. I know for a…
Read MoreShoutbacks & Shoutouts & Cupcakes.
I’m always a little “!!!?!?!?!?” when people mention, quote or talk about me in their writings. But it makes all the gut-wrenching puling moaning and late night Waaaaaaaaaambulance calls worth it, if someone else can share in it with me. My entree to sex was awesome: I was 15, he was 18, we fucked all…
Read MoreHalf Full.
I need approval. Someone patting me on the head and giving me that “Good Girl.†Can melt away the thickest glacier of self-loathing and dissolve the greasiest oil-slick of self-imposed reflexive hatred. I clearly recall, with fondness, having resentment, anger, self-pity, even rage, wiped away by my dominant telling me how good job I was…
Read MoreAsk The Negress: Q & A. To the submissives…
Q: What tips do you think all submissives need to hear, in your experience? from formspring.me … courtesy of Nadia West Take. Your. Time. BDSM isn’t going anywhere. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, and waiting is just fine. Plunging in headfirst is awesome, until it isn’t. Think of it this way: sure,…
Read MoreCrumbs.
Go ahead. Seduce me.
Read MoreBad Submissive.
Thick skin yet sensitive. Ably shielded yet vulnerable. How the fuck are we supposed to function as people, and as submissive people, yet remain vulnerable enough to let others see who we can be when we are in that headspace? These days, I have brief, rare, small glimpses into being submissive. But the rough lumpish…
Read MorePolytiquette
Wondering, poly-minded people, from your experience, how you handle this situation! Poly person #1 asks you to hook up / get down. You’re cool with it, and it just so happens you know / are friends with / are otherwise cool with their partner, PolyPerson #2. How do you approach this negotiation? DO you talk…
Read More