Musings
So, Minx, A Negress and some RopeDude walk into a bar…
Yay! Gray’s put up the Second part o’ the podcast he, CunningMinx and moi did a few weeks back. The first part is here. I hear it is interesting. In case you don’t know, GrayDancer is one of them there RopeDuds and has the Ropecast. And the Lovely and Talented CunningMinx is the proprietress of…
Read MoreAsk The Negress: For the New Kids on the Block.
Putting up a kink-related Q&A from Formspring.me. Wanna see your question posted on my blog? Ask me now! I respond to all of ’em and questions that nudge me or seem to resonate for folks will make it here :-) Do you have any advice for people who are new to public scenes/BDSM in general?…
Read MoreFacefull of epiphany.
I’m a bit of a “woo-tard” in that my “woo woo” stuff….spiritual and emotionally friable shit…tends to be the one area of my life I really hesitate to share. So, because of my weird compulsion that shoves me towards greater and greater revelation, I tend to spill my guts in various ways. For better or…
Read MoreWhen dominants fuck up.
Yet another thought provoking and moving post from CoyoteToo. I swear, some days I wonder is this man the only male-identified dominant writing about their emotional journey on the net? Seriously, if you know of another, please clue me in the comments here. :-) Anyway, he posted something today and you should read all of…
Read MoreIs that a threat…?
In a chat on Twitter, Mark S and I were bantering about things that tops sometimes use as threats in order to incite fear into the hearts (and genitals) of those (un)lucky enough to find themselves at their (lack of) mercy. I thought about my own reaction to threats, and why they don’t usually work…
Read MoreWhy Submission ≠Gift.
I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t’ even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance… “You can’t judge a book by…” “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t…” “Good things come to those…
Read MoreLess is More.
This one is the total fault of @sexisfuncoochie. That’s what you get for asking an innocent question. OK. Um, Mo here, talking about being (mostly) mono in a poly world. And by “poly world†I mean the BDSM community as I experience it. I’ve been around a while, and I am not a shrinking violet…
Read MoreRope rants.
 Leave it to Gray to go ranting about some shit.  The subject of the most recent Graydancer’s Ropecast included a rant (which isn’t all that ranty, so if you are hoping for spittle-flying desk-pounding histrionics, you’ll be sorely disappointed. I kinda was hoping for some heavy breathing and shouting, but noooooo…) about the difficulty of teaching…
Read MoreRace-play roll-up and ruminations.
You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play. If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell…
Read MoreHello, Nightmare!
“This isn’t all about you. It isn’t some fantasy, none of that safeword bullshit. It is all about me, right now, and for your foreseeable future. So scream all you want. I don’t give a fuck. No one does.†This strange dark slippery sentiment crept into my head yesterday. Sitting at work combing through the…
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