Musings
Mo’s nogamy.
Heart monogamy is how I’ve recently come to identify my idea of my optimal relationship structure. While I know many people eschew labels and frown upon being “boxed,†I see well-placed labels as a great way for people listening to me to grab onto what I’m talking about. I can then drag them along for…
Read MoreDon’t let it slide.
Too many people, overwhelmingly on the bottom / submissive side of the kink equation, have a tendency to have a “let it slide†attitude. You know. You meet someone, they are very aggressive on the first date, move too fast, but because you emerge unscathed, you “let it slide.†Someone pushes a limit, but maybe…
Read MoreDIY Distress.
I started noticing it when I was in the late-stages of my first kink relationship. The late stage where the sex and kink die-off, you aren’t playing as often, maybe the thrill is gone or you’re in line with 2-5 other women waiting to be slotted in at the dominant’s convenience. And then it began.…
Read MoreFundies in the dungeon.
I have observed, over the years, a passive-aggressive tendency among perverts to denigrate one another’s choices within the Leather Lifestyle. For me the MOST insidious behaviour is the posturing of some people who self-identify as slaves. They are the ones most often referring to themselves with the dubious title “True†slaves, and farting in the…
Read MoreMake me want it.
“I am never impressed by sheer brutality in BDSM. I AM impressed when someone can evoke a DESIRE for sheer brutality in BDSM.” ~Mollena This occurred to me as I was reading page upon page of profiles on a couple of kink oriented sites where dominants were talking about how hardcore they were. Strict dominant…
Read MoreThe underside.
I’m lonely and it is making me sad. I feel as though the further along a travel in my journey in this life, I am becoming very fluid in some areas and very, very uncompromising in others. I receive unilateral support in this. “Don’t compromise! Be You! You are worthy! Good for you for sticking…
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