Rants.
Fundies in the dungeon.
I have observed, over the years, a passive-aggressive tendency among perverts to denigrate one another’s choices within the Leather Lifestyle. For me the MOST insidious behaviour is the posturing of some people who self-identify as slaves. They are the ones most often referring to themselves with the dubious title “True†slaves, and farting in the…
Read MoreThe underside.
I’m lonely and it is making me sad. I feel as though the further along a travel in my journey in this life, I am becoming very fluid in some areas and very, very uncompromising in others. I receive unilateral support in this. “Don’t compromise! Be You! You are worthy! Good for you for sticking…
Read MoreSubmit. Fiercely.
“Sekhmet” ~ by Laurel Green  As often happens my brain revs up to impossible speeds just as I’m going to sleep. I am certain that this is because “normal working hours†are at odds with the hours in which I work best. I am NOT. Bloody. Diurnal. If the average person has an 8-hour window…
Read MoreThe Good, the Bad and the Ugly.
The not-at-all controversial race play class I conducted on Tuesday went well. Good turnout. A good mix of folks. Fantastic feedback. Even some kudos from a VERY skeptical friend who was prepared to be QUITE displeased with the outcome. After the bullfuckery of the past week, it was very gratifying to have so much support…
Read MoreThe FatGirl Pervert Rants.
I’m fat. (For the record: I do not use / identify with the euphemism BBW (Big Beautiful Woman). I respect those who do, it just isn’t my choice. “Large,” “Plus-Sized,” “Big” are terms I occasionally use. For me, I prefer fat.) I am, unsurprisingly, ambivalent about it. There isn’t a whole lot of acceptance around…
Read MoreMy Epic “Best Of” Craig’s List Post.
email this posting to a friend best of craigslist > SF bay area > The Prize for the LAMEST Booty Call I have endured goes to…. Originally Posted: Thu, 6 May 13:39 PDT The Prize for the LAMEST Booty Call I have endured goes to… Date: 2004-05-06, 1:39PM PDT I suppose it is my fault…
Read MoreWhat kink is NOT. (Or: Yes, Rhianna getting beaten IS our business.)
I don’t do all that much in the celebrity gossip arena save for occasionally snarking. But a recent high-profile abuse case is straddling several areas of thought in my brains today. I know you may know this, but let me reiterate: simply because someone is masochistic, one cannot assume that they would also tolerate abuse.…
Read MoreWhere ARE these “Predatory dominants”?
I attend quite a few Kink / Leather / BDSM events. I don’t wear obvious symbols of ownership.* I’m a pretty friendly person. I can count on one hand the times I’ve been slimed by tops at these events. in over 11 years, it is an extremely rare occurrence. But to read the fluttering panicky…
Read MoreYou are not the boss of me!
One of the myths I dispelled immediately among my friends was that being a masochist means that ALL pain is delectable. And that being submissive meant that I’d be doing their dishes. I still hate gong to the dentist, and apart from the supercalifragilisticexpialimasochist dude in Little Shop of Horrors, I know few people who…
Read MoreFemDoms: my sympathies.
In my experience, Lifestyle female Dominants are among the rarer critters in the plains and valleys of the BDSM / Leather Lifestyle Landscape. These women are often beset by hordes of male submissives. It sounds like an awesome proposition no? To have packs of men swooning at your feet. Who wouldn’t want to be the…
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