Posts Tagged ‘BDSM’
“Topping from the Bottom”: what it is NOT.
I cringe and bristle when I hear the phrase “topping from the bottom” It is often used as a pejorative within the Leather and BDSM community to denote one who is in the position of receiving sensation (the bottom) directing or “topping” from what “should be” a subordinate place. The problem I have is this: the…
Read MoreFucking Monsters.
Fucking Twitter. A series of Tweets with PantheraPardus bounced me out of bed so that I could try to explain to myself why fucked up people turn me on.  In 1992 I was living in LA and had gone, with a few girlfriends, to see the new Tarantino flick. I didn’t know anything about it, but…
Read MoreWTF Wednesday: Black girl. Red State.
The folks of the Arizona Power Exchange group invited me, a long while back, to teach a class for them. That class is this weekend. Please keep in mind, I am used to controversy. I am, after all, one of the very VERY few people in the BDSM / Leather Community openly discussing and teaching…
Read More“What the hell do bottoms know about rope bondage?”
I have been invited to be a speaker at a kink event. This is really, really WIN, and seems to be happening more frequently, which is SUPER cool. This one is in Colorado. It is called Denver Bound. It is a smaller event, and they have an interesting setup. They have a few people come…
Read MoreWTF Wednesday: Did you READ my profile?
I know it is tough. When you are surfing the interwebs to look for love, perhaps you lack the time to read every line of every profile of every woman into whom you want to stick your penis. But please. My gods. Some of the responses I get to my profile. This gem today in…
Read MoreFUCKED (Under 500)
Trying out this new thing, seeing if I can pull off telling an (in)decent fucktale in under 500 words. Whaddya think? “Don’t move. Don’t fucking move. if you move and you make me come right now I swear to god you’ll make me very angry and I don’t think you want that.” I could hardly…
Read MoreSome days I hate what I need.
My subconscious Sub-Etha Sens-O-Matic was thrumming with memory and pulsing with perversion everywhere for me this weekend. I had a lovely brunch with a dear friend on Sunday. He is, among many things, a sadist and of British extraction. These things are, in my book, two of the the very Pillars of Win. Being extremely well-hung…
Read MoreThis mitigates my guilt.
I often felt kinda guilty about the raw nasty sex I used to foist upon my dolls as a kid. Did you know that the original Star Trek play-set was smartly fitted with a “working transporter” had the capacity for 2 figures if you 69ed them? No, no you didn’t! Yeah, Barbie got it from…
Read MoreYou’ve Tried The Rest, Now Try The BEST!
The Best Sex bloggers, that is! *squee* I have been invited by Catalina Ramirez to become a contributor to bestsexbloggers.com SO FUCKING STOKED!!!! Huge fat thanks to Zille and to Desiree for recommending my blog!! And a shout out to…well… whomever the other people were who brought me to her attention! *dancing*  Those of you surfing over from…
Read MoreThe Power Exchange: A Memory.
It looks as though one of San Francisco’s last public pansexual Sex Club and BDSM playspaces,The Power Exchange, is at risk. The owner of the building is selling, and the future of the place is uncertain. On those nights where the filthynastypiglut in you wants to be ogled and leered at and objectified by complete…
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