Education
“Vanilla” Bigotry.
I love perverted sex. In fact, some of the perverted sex I love the most is considered too fucked up for public consumption by other kinky people. I love kinky people. The community, warts and all, is a home for me. Â And like any extended weird family, we have our disagreements. I know for a…
Read More“Play” vs. Play.
I have a demo coming up this weekend for the Madtown Kinkfest. I really love the folks there, and I’m looking forward to it. I have a somewhat unique situation in that, because of popular demand, (believe me, it sounds even weirder to me than it does to you) I’m tracked on my own session…
Read MorePOC @ LLC! Tell your story ASAP!
I am deeply honored and delighted to have been invited to present and share at the Leather Leadership Conference XIV this April 9th-11th , in Detroit, Michigan! I am sure some of you will be in attendance, but I know that not everyone can do so. I’m asking for your input, you thoughts, and your…
Read MoreSo, Minx, A Negress and some RopeDude walk into a bar…
Yay! Gray’s put up the Second part o’ the podcast he, CunningMinx and moi did a few weeks back. The first part is here. I hear it is interesting. In case you don’t know, GrayDancer is one of them there RopeDuds and has the Ropecast. And the Lovely and Talented CunningMinx is the proprietress of…
Read MoreAsk The Negress: For the New Kids on the Block.
Putting up a kink-related Q&A from Formspring.me. Wanna see your question posted on my blog? Ask me now! I respond to all of ’em and questions that nudge me or seem to resonate for folks will make it here :-) Do you have any advice for people who are new to public scenes/BDSM in general?…
Read MoreOh yeah. Jersey!
I was moping a bit because I didn’t have a date or nuttin. for the New Year thing. But now I do. I few hundred dates, I guess. Will you be one of them? Shout out if you’re going! Click the banner to register if you wanna be!
Read More“A Single Gal’s Manifesto” by Sheryn B.
A woman I greatly admire and who I recognized as being one of those soul-family people when we first met recently wrote a blog post on FetLife. It kind of is the zenith to my recent post’s nadir-gazing miasma, and I’ve obtained her permission to repost it here.
Read MoreRope rants.
 Leave it to Gray to go ranting about some shit.  The subject of the most recent Graydancer’s Ropecast included a rant (which isn’t all that ranty, so if you are hoping for spittle-flying desk-pounding histrionics, you’ll be sorely disappointed. I kinda was hoping for some heavy breathing and shouting, but noooooo…) about the difficulty of teaching…
Read MoreRace-play roll-up and ruminations.
You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play. If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell…
Read MoreAre You Ready to Bid??
Thanks to my AMAZING friends, I have a FANTASTIC array of goods, services and delights for the lucky winner(s) of the basket I am offering in my run for Ms. SF Leather 2009! Seriously, this is a tribute to the Leather Community and how people will pull together for a common cause. Further, it is…
Read More