Perversions
Why Submission ≠Gift.
I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t’ even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance… “You can’t judge a book by…” “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t…” “Good things come to those…
Read MoreA Lust of Shakespearean Dimensions.
“The Taming of the Shrew” is a problematic show. The main plotline revolving, as it does, around a woman being forced into an arranged marriage to an apparent loony who then proceeds to beat and starve her into submission. Literally. There is another plotline but that shit is boring and I don’t give a motherfuck…
Read MoreLess is More.
This one is the total fault of @sexisfuncoochie. That’s what you get for asking an innocent question. OK. Um, Mo here, talking about being (mostly) mono in a poly world. And by “poly world†I mean the BDSM community as I experience it. I’ve been around a while, and I am not a shrinking violet…
Read MoreRope rants.
 Leave it to Gray to go ranting about some shit.  The subject of the most recent Graydancer’s Ropecast included a rant (which isn’t all that ranty, so if you are hoping for spittle-flying desk-pounding histrionics, you’ll be sorely disappointed. I kinda was hoping for some heavy breathing and shouting, but noooooo…) about the difficulty of teaching…
Read MoreRace-play roll-up and ruminations.
You might not have known me back when I first started talking publicly about my experiences as a Black woman, into BDSM, as a submissive /slave identified person, who did scenes that incorporated and underscored racial issues in play. If you did, you remember the flamewars, fights, humiliating rejection, condemnation and various hootenannies that fell…
Read MoreMo’s nogamy.
Heart monogamy is how I’ve recently come to identify my idea of my optimal relationship structure. While I know many people eschew labels and frown upon being “boxed,†I see well-placed labels as a great way for people listening to me to grab onto what I’m talking about. I can then drag them along for…
Read MoreI’m a Bee!
Busy and bumbling, that is:-) I am getting swamped by rehearsals for an amazing show I’m in, and you should come see it. Hell, I got peeps coming from bloody Wisconsin and Florida to see it! “Drip” is gonna be OUTSTANDING. I am in the home stretch for the Ms. SF Leather Contest!
Read MoreDon’t let it slide.
Too many people, overwhelmingly on the bottom / submissive side of the kink equation, have a tendency to have a “let it slide†attitude. You know. You meet someone, they are very aggressive on the first date, move too fast, but because you emerge unscathed, you “let it slide.†Someone pushes a limit, but maybe…
Read MoreDIY Distress.
I started noticing it when I was in the late-stages of my first kink relationship. The late stage where the sex and kink die-off, you aren’t playing as often, maybe the thrill is gone or you’re in line with 2-5 other women waiting to be slotted in at the dominant’s convenience. And then it began.…
Read MoreFireplay: u r doin it wrong.
Fireplay can be a dramatic and sexy aspect of BDSM play. Whether you are doing a quick swipe of someone’s skin with flash-paper or using some high falutin’ fire floggers, it is certainly an eye-catching and showy scene. Unless you set everything on fire. I was recently reminded of a scene I saw many years…
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