e[Lust] Digest #54

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #55? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to…

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Permission to be human: granted.

I was more anxious than happy when I received an IM from The Composer. It was the middle of the night for him, and he had responded to one of my e-mails letting me know he was only up for a bit and was going to sleep once he was done working. The anxiety stemmed…

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Conversations with the Perverted Negress – Episodes 4A & 4B!

Part 4A & 4B is here! Technical difficulties lead me to have to cut in the middle of one recording and so yeah, extra nugs for you. Getting hyphy with the hypotheticals: fantasies vs. realities and edgeplay in daily life. We talk about the hotness of attention to detail, the randomness of stutters, why I…

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Conversations With The Perverted Negress – Episode 3!

Look! It be part three in my rough stabs at Podcasting…In which we riff into the topic of presenting & Teaching, talk about the Unconference model (shout out to the G.R.U.E.!) vs. your typical kink class. How do we separate out the intensity of scenes in a demo  from the artificiality of a demo structure?…

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Mo Masocast!!!

Unspeakable Axe runs the Masocast, and I am delighted to have been invited to sit and chat with him for a while! We recorded it in… December, I think? My memory isn’t awesome and I don’t care all that much…at least not enough to so dig around in my Google calendar and scritch it up! It was wonderful…

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Speaking out against racism in Leather.

If you’re just catching up on the issue of the Portland Eagle Blackface Problem, please read my original post here. (Thanks to  Sprinkles McGillicuddy for making a captioned version available!) Some people have stepped up to the place and stepped up as allies. Being an ally means fighting alongside. It is about taking a stand, in front…

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KNOW YOUR NEGRO III: ADVANCED EDITION!

KNOW YOUR NEGROS III: Advanced Edition. Yep, it is true…there aren’t all THAT many brown faces in the Kink / Leather world. But hey, we are working on it. Interestingly, though there aren’t that many of us we are mistaken for one another….er…a lot, actually. Embarrassingly so. So I tried to help by posting PSAs. But now……

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The 2012 “PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS” Whistle Stop Tour!

http://www.gofundme.com/playingwellwithothers  After a few years in the making, “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” is out!  To celebrate, we have planned an ambitious book tour: 16 cities in 21 days! We will be traversing the USA (and Vancouver) by train (and a few legs…

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My Demon is on NPR.

As a storyteller, there are several landmarks ya hit when telling that resonate. The first time with a big audience. That first time revealing something you’ve never told. The first time you perform at a national event. I’d hit all but two of my storytelling goals (at that time) when I received an e-mail from one of…

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